Servitude of Dominants

One often hears of the servitude of submissives, but how often do
you hear about the servitude of dominants?
For those of you who are automatically pulling back at that
statement, you may wish to rethink what you think a dominant is
after reading this article.


How does a dominant serve? Simple. Example.

CARING: A dominant serves thier submissive and others by caring
for them. When one cares for the safety, and stability of another,
one will care for that person and see to it that thier needs are taken
care of.

PROTECTION: A dominant seeks to protect thier submissive from harm. Be it from
external or internal influences. Protecting them from as much harm as is humanly
possible. Of course no one can protect 100%. But a dominant serves thier submissive by
protecting them.

PROVIDING: A submissive is served by thier dominant when the dominant provides
for them emotionally and mentally. This can be done in many ways. Anything from
teaching them how to read, to a daily hug and kiss.

AFFECTION: A dominant provides emotional security for thier submissive by means
of affection. Whether it be hugs and kisses, kind words of encouragement, or as much
as the maturity of the dominant allows. The more mature and less insecure that both
the dominant and submissive are, the more affection there will be.

A dominant is responsible for thier submissive and as such they
serve thier submissive in many ways. From caring for them
emotionally, phsyically and mentally, to supporting them in thier
endeavors and growth as a person as well as thier submissive. In
manys ways one could say that a dominant submits themself to the
care of thier submissive. A dominant allows a submissive to care
for them as well, and thus submits themself to the care of thier
submissive in this way. A dominant that only recieves from thier
submissive and does not give to them is nothing more then a leech,
sucking dry the loving gift a submissive has to offer.

A dominant has the gift of control and submits it to thier
submissive for thier approval. If and when the submissive accepts
this the submissive in turn gives of themself to the dominant as a
gift to thier dominant. Each giving of themself to the other. And
while the submissive submits themself to the dominants complete
care, it is the dominants that in the end serves the submissive in
the way they care for the submissive.

It is this mutual giving and taking that many do not see on the
surface. Most are under the mistaken notion that only the
submissive serves. This is what those who are not into D/s but only
into bdsm miss. It is a power exchange between the two people.
The submissive gives thier power to the dominant and the
dominant takes it and molds it and gives it back to the submissive
who in turn uses it to serve the dominant who returns it again to
the submissive serving the submissive in the form of thier caring
and nurturing etc. And so it goes back and forth on and on as they
grow together over time. Each serving the other, giving of themself
to the other one totally and without reserve over time.

In time both the submissive and the dominant reach a point where
they would willingly be able to lay down thier life for the other
without hesitation as the other one will mean more to them then
thier own life. This in the end is the ultimate sacrifice. To give ones
life to another in love and yes, servitude as well. As you see,
hopefully, a dominant serves a submissve with thier life. Just as a
submissive also does as well. The total giving over of ones self to
another in all and all is the ultimate form of expression in love. Love
is an act of ones will. One chooses this. You choose to act a certain
way. And one can choose to love another or one can choose to not
oo love another. When you do not "feel" like doing the nice thing
you still do it out of love for the other person. Inspite of your
"feelings" you do it. Hence love [in its purest form] is an act of
ones will.

I hope this has helped everyone to understand that serving is a two
way street in real D/s and as you see has nothing to do with bdsm.
Bdsm is an action whereas D/s is a lifestyle.

And I am sure there are many more ways a dominant can and does
serve thier submissive and others. If these comments knock your
nose out of joint then you are probably not a D/s but more then
likely just an abusive dominant or submissive. Sadly there are
many more out there on the internet people know of. And just as
dominants can be abusive, so can submissives. But thats for
another article.

So serve each other in love and keep growing.