CONTRACTS A contract is a consensual agreement between a dominant and
submissive. It specifies roles, rights and responsibilities of the dominant and
submissive. Contracts range from general to very specific detailed documents. They
help to define the desires, hopes, limits and goals. It adds structure to a D/s
relationship. As you grow together in your relationship you should update your contract
to expand with your needs. A D/s relationship functions best when clear lines have been
drawn. Set boundaries and most are happy to stay within them. It is not a legal
document but rather a âmoralâ one, not to be entered into lightly. Contracts state where
you want for your relationship to go. What your expectations are, even if it is for only a
couple of hours. DRAWING UP A CONTRACT Negotiate and verbalize your wants,
limits, needs and expectations (use a checklist). You need this kind of information to
draft your contract. State the duration, whether it be for a few hours or an open-ended
contract. Choose either a general or a specific contract. Include definite doâs and donâ
ts, and state the consequences of violation of them. Include an "out clause" this allows
either party to terminate when it is felt it canât be abided to in good faith. But please
first try to re-negotiate. Keep the document reasonable as we all have: families, jobs
and limits. Make sure both parties are involved in the making of a contract so that the
needs of all parties are met. Think clearly, consider each provision and what it will take
to fulfill them. Be suspicious of any dominant that insists you turn everything over to
himâ¦if the relationship sours you may be left with nothing. Contracts add a whole new
dimension to your relationship. It adds depth and substance, and a sense of direction.
Submissives remember that you have as much voice in the making of the contract as
you dominant does. The signing of a contract or agreement is a major step in a D/s
relationship and never to be taken lightly. They should be reviewed together
periodically, as the relationship grows.